For the lover in you, the heartbroken heartbreakers, the healing, the wondering wanderers, and everybody in between those things. This is the formation of my memoir, functioning as a love letter.
My relationship with myself is the most important and self-love is the best love. Like Eartha Kitt answered to the question Are you willing to compromise within a relationship?, “To compromise? What is compromising? Compromising for what? Compromising for what reason? To compromise? For what?! To compromise. What is compromise? Stupid. A man comes into my life and I have to compromise? You must think about that one again. A man comes into my life and [I] have to compromise? For what? For what? For what?! A relationship is [something] that has to be earned, not to compromise for. And I love relationships. I think they’re fantastically wonderful, I think they’re great and I think there’s nothing in the world more beautiful than falling in love. But falling in love for the right reason. Falling in love for the right purpose. Falling in love, falling in love… When you fall in love, what is there to compromise about?” Isn’t love a union between two people or does Eartha fall in love with herself? “I think, if you want to think about it in terms of analyzing… yes, I fall in love with myself and I want someone to share it with me. I want someone to share me with me.” Has that happened? “Many times, in many ways…”
Yet, I’ve always tussled with this notion and learning how to thrive in loving myself, as top priority. It has seemed to me as if my relationships with others (specifically, lovers) were more important — and I still find that to be true in certain aspects — but I think it’s less about which is more important or more true, and more about staying true to yourself most importantly. Maybe, I’m talking in circles. I think it’s all a mirror. And really, you have to look into it to know who you really are. In that same breath, we mirror one another — especially in terms of romantic relationships. So falling in love with myself and learning how to love me, shows me how to fall in love with someone else and love them, and vice versa.